Hi It’s Biff and Julie – The Acme Chatters!
We’re back!! Thanks Justin for your interesting thoughts. We will check in with Justin sometime in the future again for the gay man’s views on dating.
We wanted to talk a bit about lying in public ads on a dateline. Our comments would apply equally to chat greetings and on-line profiles.
Is it ever acceptable to out and out lie in your public ad? And if so what is and is not ok?
Biff: I think it’s ok sometime so long as it doesn’t hurt someone. A man pretending to be a woman is obviously wrong. We talked about that in an earlier post. Pretending to be a doctor or a lawyer when you aren’t probably is bad too.
Julie: The big lie is age. Supposedly everyone lies about there age and I just don’t think that’s right. You are what you are. Accept it.
Biff: I agree that if you shave ten or twenty years off your age it’s not right. But a couple of years seems ok. Especially if that’s what everyone else does. If I were 33 and said I was 33, everyone would think that I am forty. So I should say I am 29 and they will get it right that I am in my mid thirties.
Julie: I disagree. Just say that you are 33 and say that you mean it. If you simply don’t want to admit your true age you could say something vague like thirty-something or old enough to know better.
Biff: Yeah then everyone would think I was 60. There’s more to lying than saying something false. Sometimes failing to state something that is very important would be a lie by omission.
Julie: Like what?
Biff: Like not mentioning that you are currently calling from prison. I think that would be pretty relevant.
Julie: I guess I would agree there. Anyway I think you should be as honest as possible and let the chips fall where they may.
What do you think?
To conclude we are including a mini-post submitted by one of the Acme users – Sophie. Here’s what she has to say.
Hi, I’m Sophie. I’m a happily divorced mother of 2 grown kids. Both my kids have been out of the house for 3 years now, so for the past 3 years I have been living my dream life, doing whatever I want without having to answer to anyone. My divorce was finalized 6 years ago and I have not had a serious relationship since then, but it doesn’t mean I’m not looking!
I started using Acme chat lounge a couple years ago and have met some really interesting people. A couple I have met out for coffee, but I got to admit, I really use Acme chat lounge to have pleasant phone conversations – it’s just something I enjoy to do at night while relaxing at home.
Recently the Acme chat lounge has opened up so I have the option to chat with other people all over the country. And I love it. I live in Florida, have traveled all over the state…but I have never left the state. I have met 3 or 4 really nice guys in other states. 2 guys from New York, 1 guy from Alaska and another guy (who I call my neighbor) from South Carolina.
This is perfect for me, I have spent the past couple of weeks selecting a different state each night and then trying to find someone to chat up with! The accents are fun (especially my New York guys) and I have learned sooo much about Alaska! I’m having such a great time, really enjoying the variety of the people I’m meeting!
Thank you Acme, I feel like my circle of friends has expanded and gotten much more interesting because of you. Someday I hope to visit some of these guys I’ve met in the chat lounge, for now I’m enjoying pleasant conversation and learning about people all over our country!
Anyway that all for now from Biff and Julie – The Acme Chatters.