Hi It’s Biff and Julie – The Acme Chatters!
This post is Julie’s opportunity to vent a few rants.
Julie: So, here are a few things you probably don’t about me. I’m 33, single, never married, no children, employed, and self sufficient. I consider myself average looking… 5’6”, blond hair, blue eyes and you really didn’t think I would tell you how much I weigh…did you?… I’m thin. I’ve tried internet dating, telephone datelines and even a blind date or two. Some of these have turned into long term relationships but I just haven’t found mister right. I am beginning to think that I just don’t understand men.
Are men incapable of thinking about anything other then sex? I am sure that there are plenty of women who are willing to have sex on the first or maybe even the second date… I’m not one of them. I have gone out on several dates with guys who claimed to be looking for a long term relationship but who where ultimately just looking to hookup. Um…I would like to get know a guy first and even if I do like him and there’s chemistry I’m not looking for a one night stand.
I’m not needy….PLEASE don’t be either!! Have you ever heard a guy say that he is looking for someone that reminds him of his mother?? In my experience this seems to translate into I need you to take care of me like my mother did. Have you ever dated someone who wants or needs something all the time….uggghhh!!
I would consider myself very independent. I do enjoy spending time with the person I am dating but I also like spending alone time doing things that I enjoy. I once dated a guy named Bill that I swear would call me every five minutes when I chose to do something on my own….And oh boy, if I didn’t answer when he called he would blow up my phone. Control freak was a definite turn off and I ended things very quickly.
The dreaded B word…..BAGGAGE….which often leads….DRAMA!!
Pretty much everyone has some kind of baggage but really it’s all about how you handle your baggage.
It comes down to a little honesty which really does go a long way. Pretending to be someone you’re not or dropping that skeleton you have hiding in your closet on someone after you have been dating for a while sucks! I realize that some things aren’t first, second or maybe even third date conversations….sometimes they end up being deal breakers, and other times they don’t. Why waste your time and theirs especially if turns into being a deal breaker and now you have really started to like them.
Your ex is still stalking you or you are not over your ex….
If your ex calls you all the time or follows you around you might be ready to date but wait until things cool down or get a restraining order first. I went out on a date with a guy named Greg, great guy, psycho ex. They had a child together and had broken up 6 months before I met him. She showed up at the restaurant we were having dinner at. It was quite a scene…can you say DRAMA!! I know the drama wasn’t his fault and I told him to call me if and when things settled down. I guess it never did…that ended up being our first and only date.
If you find yourself talking about your ex all the time…..don’t torture a date to an evening spent listening to you go on and on talking about how much you miss your ex or how great they were. You aren’t ready to start dating again!!
I realize many of the things I discussed can apply to women just as easily as they do men.
I can’t wait to hear what Biff has to say in response….
Anyway, that’s all for now Julie.